Civility, Bullies and Winning

“Bully-worship, under various disguises, has become a universal religion, and such truisms as that a machine-gun is still a machine-gun even when a ‘good’ man is squeezing the trigger… have turned into heresies which it is actually becoming dangerous to utter.” ~Power: A New Social Analysis by Bertrand Russell, reviewed by George Orwell in The Adelphi (January 1939)

The Effect of a Debt-Based SystemI’d like to think that in the dog-eat-dog world, civility might be viewed as something more than a sign of weakness.

Civility: 1.  courtesy; politeness.2.  a polite action or expression: an exchange of civilities. 3.  Archaic. civilization; culture; good breeding

Benjamin Franklin once said: “Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none.” At the end of the day, civility is, at very least, about being polite and courteous. Given life’s spectrum of relationships – spousal, family, close friends, social friends, work colleagues, online friends, and the public at large –  the hope is that civility would be woven somewhere in among them all.

Yet in 2015, bullies are everywhere. Contrary to “civility to all,” the words F-U better epitomize popular discourse, with road rage as a perfect example. Verbal/emotional abuse has been “normalized” in every kind of relationship thanks to reality TV, rap music, professional sports and other media. Even the Disney channel gets in the act with “tweener” shows casting boys and girls as competitive and envious, doing deliberately mean things to each other.

What’s up with all this?  Bullies are the winners: Today’s standard for success requires a company, industry or individual to be able to assert power over others. We find the media praising a company, an industry, or an individual as “dominating” or “owning” someone or something…as a supposedly good thing. All the while, the negative personal and societal psychological impact of domination as a hallmark of success remains overlooked and under-reported.

Dominate: 1.  to rule over; govern; control. 2.  to tower above; overlook; overshadow 3.  to predominate, permeate, or characterize

In America, to dominate is to win. Values of personal integrity, reciprocity, adding value, mutual respect and civility, matter only if and when they lead to “winning.” Otherwise, values fly out the window, and the end, (winning), justifies the means (no matter who gets hurt).

Why? Context generates content.

Centuries ago a global, debt-based, central-banking-monetary system was established by, and for, the pinnacle of society’s moneyed-class. While, at the same time, rewarding the “haves” and extracting wealth from the “have nots,” a business model evolved that we have come to consider normal; one that requires the skills of domination for success. Those who do it well, we call, “leaders.”

Since a debt-based system thrives only as debt grows, those with the greatest ability to generate and collect compound-interest are the ones that monopolize the financial, political and business scenes. Obscene monetary rewards fall to these big winners; many of whom peddle the grossest, most addictive, violent and, unconscionable products and services. Weapon manufacturers, government and private contractors, as well as much of the banking, pharmacy, food, music, gaming (gambling), TV, video and film industries (think porno), consistently pocket the mega-bucks.

The worship of domination churns out generations of people who can’t wait to gain power over others since, culturally, this is how they will find “success” and be lauded for doing so. Seldom will anyone speak above hushed tones to link the many mounting personal and societal problems of our times with the “winner” paradigm of domination. As I have said before, there is no money in the truth.

If “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery,” bullying is simply the natural outcome of extolling the cultural virtues of winning through domination. Sadly, workplace-abuse-of-power, domestic violence, playground bullies, senseless murders, and perpetual wars here and abroad are just some of what it looks like. Legislate civility? Good luck with that. Attempts to legislate civility are but empty Band-aid, measures in a post-modern world impacted by a currency burdened with more debt than equity. Today’s economic “Musical Chairs” exposes the ruthless side of humans when faced with the fear of lack. This is the content generated by the context of an inequitable monetary system.

In my opinion, even should a more equitable monetary system replace the current one, civility can never truly be legislated. It is a personal choice. At different times in my own life, I unwittingly opted to dominate, to have power over someone for one reason or another. Just imagine the possibilities if we individually reclaimed the useless finger of blame in the litigious world of domination and control, and to both friend and foe alike, instead chose to practice civility, personal responsibility, and who knows, maybe even kindness!


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  1. Terry says:

    You wrote:
    “Attempts to legislate civility are but Band-aid, empty measures”

    Typically tyrants name all the atrocious character flaws that form the foundation of all their activity, and attribute those evils to society, but not for the sake of eradicating wicked behavior but to perpetuate it so that it becomes a manipulative controlling and dominating mechanism for them.

    The case in point is “school bullying” where little boys are coerced out of their natural manhood and flattered into believing themselves strong and “tolerant”, loving good citizens because they wear pink. Meanwhile like all else New World Order the desired end result is the dissolution of a naturally healthy, family based society through the confounding of sexuality. Little boys are bullied into sacrificing the freedom inherent in their manhood, in pitiful subjugation to the real bullies, the power hungry tyrants.

    People say that they are all about money and yes the love of money was the “route” to all their evil, but they have all the money they need and they own the money press. It is power; controlling, bullying power that motivates them now. They hunger and thirstt to dominate and control.

  2. HCNR says:

    Right. That middle finger can be retracted, and instead, use it together with the other fingers to graciously feed a hungry and appreciative mouth. The result of that is a good conscience in the giver and a bit of growth in the receiver. That is a win-win situation, especially when the receiver turns it around to use fingers to feed that one who gave good food initially.

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